According to YourTango.com there are some questions, which you may ask yourself before you leave to be with your soul-mate and have the breath-stopping romantic life you've been having in secret during your affair, Huffington Post reported.
The publication reported that if you are in the throes of infatuation and you think that no one has ever made you feel this way before, then you need to see the relationship realistically. You should not forget that your lover knows you're married and is complicit in the lying that having an affair requires.
Most affairs are conducted in secret, where it's easy for the pair to be on their best behaviour for the limited time they get to spend together. But, experts have warned that once the affair sees the light of day, it becomes part of the real world.
It is important to question yourself if 'you are being objective about your marriage?' It's easy to find the negative side of your marriage, but finding the positive is also important and you have to be willing to see it.
If you only see your spouse's failings, you should also be honest and genuine about your contributions to your marriage. You should look at what led you to pick the option of having an affair in order to address the problems in marriage. This will reveal the role you play in the success of your relationships.