Young men who pledge to remain virgin until their marriage leads to sexual confusion in them even after the wedding day, demonstrated in a new study.
The study showed that sexual one-upmanship can all be a part of demonstrating one's manhood, especially for young men eager to exert their masculinity.
Sarah Diefendorf, a sociology graduate student at the University of Washington, said that sexual purity and pledging abstinence were most commonly thought of as feminine, something girls and young women promised before marriage.
Diefendorf said that to maintain this gift from God, men believed that they must control sex before marriage.
She said that people thought that evangelical support groups were just about suppressing men's natural urges, but really they were caring, supportive and safe space that allowed men to have a remarkably open and frank discussion about sexual desire.
Diefendorf added that while the whole point of these support groups was to honor sex in marriage, these men have gotten so used to thinking about sex as something negative that they brought those concerns with them to the marriage bed and once men were married, these men struggled to manage those concerns in the absence of the supportive community they once benefited from.