Ever wondered why the famous words, ‘I Love you’ warm the cockles of your heart? Can love, which has tickled the creative juices of artists, poets and writers to produce masterpieces, be born merely out of instinct? Can we pin this life-altering emotion to a play of chemicals and hormones in the body? Discover what makes for the inextricable bonding of love and life!

Love - an intense, universal and immensely intriguing emotion that knows no barriers of time, geography, race, sex and culture, is a famous expression of profound affection, caring and attachment. Eulogized as life’s driving force and clichéd as ‘making the world go round’ or ‘doing strange things to people’, it is famously known to blind those it envelops!

This mind boggling emotion is versatile too as it fits in different contexts – As much as ‘love’ can imply fondness for an object, it can also be used to express profound feelings in a relationship. One can also love his fellow beings, or passionately love a cause! 

Manifestations of Love 

Unraveling this emotion led to detailed analysis of its varied forms - love can be romantic, platonic, interpersonal and even impersonal.

To offer a peek, the love between lovers is romantic love, spurred on by physical attraction. Love which is devoid of romantic or sexual overtones, for instance love between friends is considered a platonic form of love. Bonding between family members or the deep attachment between mother and child is interpersonal love. Impersonal love denotes love for a cause or a principle, close to one’s heart.  One can love a hobby, their job, or love material objects and attach great value to it. 

Why we love ..... 

The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread. ~ Mother Teresa....

The need to be loved is as basic and indispensable as any other human need, like hunger, thirst, warmth and sleep, say analysts.

Renowned anthropologist, Dr Helen Fisher whose pet subject ‘love’ led to extensive research on the evolution of love, has called it a ‘natural phenomenon’. A famous author of many books on ‘Love’, Dr Fisher explains the emotion to be extensions of lust, attraction and attachment, which influences our preferences of a mate and drive for sex. 

In one such interesting work of hers, titled ‘Why we Love’, she delves into the tell tale signs of someone in a romantic relationship. Her insight reveals the journey of romantic love and lust. According to her, romantic love begins with physical attraction while lust is a powerful sexual desire which is fleeting and lasts anywhere between a few weeks to months. On the other hand, attachment denotes a sense of commitment in the relationship, born out of intense love and affection.

Neurobiology of Love

People in love could experience mood swings, sleeplessness, racing heart beat, loss of appetite and are generally lost in their own world. So much so one can easily spot love’s countenance. Now, Neuroscience makes sense of this ‘heady’ state of love.... 

When two people fall madly in love, the brain’s pleasure centers are activated causing the release of few chemicals-dopamine, pheromones and serotonin. These chemicals are directly responsible for excitement, increased heart rate, lack of appetite and sleeplessness.