“Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it…. Proverbs 22:6”
Easier said than done. You will have momentary breakdowns and hair raising situations, your temper would simply tear the roof top! Who is to be blamed for that? Would it be you or your child? This is a question all parents need to ask themselves before justifying the whole act of nurturing as a difficult errand. Undoubtedly raising disciplined children is the most difficult but an important job a parent has but not impossible if you are determined to do what is required out of you as a parent.
Technically there is no right or wrong method to raise your child right. Grownups love to lecture, yell and prod at children for their mischievous behavior or nonstop shower of questions. Annoying as it may seem, you need to pay attention to detail. You just have to understand the reason for why your child is asking so many questions or whining and answer to the point for them to be content and it sure will pay off. After all it’s a journey that they have embarked on called life and they come across a lot that might seem mundane to grownups but is of excitement to your child.
Most of the actions imposed on kids are usually from parents’ own experience and that’s what needs to be looked into for corrective measures. Here are scenarios parents need to put themselves in, to understand what would work better because both the methods would deliver results but to what extent, is what you need to look into. A brief assessment of different parental styles will give a better understanding of the the do’s and don’ts of effective parenting.
► Dictatorial style of parenting
► Assertive style of parenting
► Positive reinforcement
► Eye contact
► Inculcating optimism
► Permissive style of parenting
► Minimal involvement with child
► Indiscriminate praising
► Use of negative labels