An expert has revealed how, following an affair, the cheater blames his partner for the 'vulnerability' to the affair, adds to the shock and pain.
Sheri Meyers, author of Chatting or Cheating, has suggested that when cheating happens, both partners must take a serious look at their own responsibility and contribution to the downfall of their relationship, the Huffington Post reported.
Meyers has listed out few reasons why most cheaters say they strayed.
Researchers have shown that couples who lead separate social lives are much more likely to cheat than couples who spend more time enjoying common friends and interests.
The expert suggested that frequent criticism and complaining is a big indication that your relationship needs work now.
When partners behave like roommates rather than sexual partners, they may begin to look outside of the relationship for physical or emotional fulfilment.
Meyers said that if needs of partners are going unmet, and they feel all they do is sacrifice for others, they may end up having an affair to satisfy some unmet desires because they feel "they deserve it."