Despite a population of 1.27 billion our country boasts of the lowest
divorce rate (1.1 percent). However there has been an alarming rise in the number
of divorce cases. Divorce and its rising trend is a global phenomenon. The
United States (54.8 percent) and Sweden (54.9 percent) have the highest divorce
rates. The question is - What is the secret of a successful marriage?
A team of researchers at Missouri University lead by
Professor Adam Galovan published the results of the new study in the Journal of
Family Issues. One hundred and sixty heterosexual couples aged 25 to 30 with at
least one child under five took part in the survey. About 40 percent of the
women had full or part-time jobs. All couples who participated had been married
for an average of five years.
The results showed that sharing chores led to a happy
marriage. However, researchers opine that it
is not important that the chores be divided equally between the spouses
"Sharing can mean something different to every couple," says Prof. Galovan. "It
could be taking turns changing nappies, or one parent watching the children
while the other prepares dinner," he added. It never matters 'who did what', but there has to be division of labor.
This new finding contradicts a previous survey result that men who engaged in
traditionally male tasks, like yard work, experienced benefit (the benefit,
according to the American Sociological Review was 'more sex').
Wives in the study loved it when their husbands were
close to their children. This improved the couples' relationship. Father-child bond is perceived by the
mother to be of great importance.
The phase of transition into parenthood is a stressful
period and husbands and wives should learn to cope with this stress. Prof.
Galovan recommends couples to 'find ways to connect throughout the day, even if
it's just doing dishes together or watching a movie.'
A 2007 Pew Research Poll has listed sharing household
chores, faithfulness and good sex as the top three issues associated with
marital satisfaction. The results of the latest survey were published last
month by the Journal of Family Issues.
Father Involvement, Father-Child
Relationship Quality, and Satisfaction With Family Work: Actor and Partner
Influences on Marital Quality: Journal of Family Issues.