I am so sorry. My mom was done the same way.I hardly got off the plane and the fighting had begun. It was only 2 days as well. I hate to think the last thoughts my mom had was her family arguing over her about everything from religion to how much a day it would cost to keep her alive.[ This seemed to be the most important topic since she did not have insurance.] She shed small tears from one side when I talked to her. It was only when I told her I was there and had her Medal she had given me years ago that the tears came. I know she heard me, no one wanted to stop and listen.I feel such shame and anguish for not fighting more for her . The Shining Star of Catholicism, my grandmother, said if God wanted her to live she would breathe on her own. She consulted a priest to cover her butt and dodge the guilt and extra Hail Marys she would have had. And altho that may be true, she died listening to how she had burdened the family. Please fight for your loved ones....

My prayers are with you. Coughing is considered a medical subject. What does your doctor say will reduce the coughing? I recommend that you add your nephew's name to many prayer rolls. Prayer can do wonders. Comatalker

Just curious. What will the content of your book do? I mean, is it to help caregivers feel hopeful? Is it to help grieving parents or spouses? What is the book going to be about? Is the person still living? What are some more details about the coma patient. Thanks for sharing. Comatalker

It is to help grieving children and spouses (mostly spouses). The woman in the coma does pass on, but in the most loving way possible. She falls into the coma after giving birth to her daughter. While she is in the coma her husband relives their lives together (from the day they met until the present) out loud to his wife, which in turn gives her the strength wake up long enough to say the right thing to help the husband let her "go" and be a father for his new born child.

Wow! Sounds like a great movie and novel. Is this a personal experience or someone you know personally? Just curious. Have you Googled actual coma survivors? That would be a great way to get information that helps your story sound believable and real. That's important to successfully publish a book. You can also look for websites and discussion forums for people who have experienced near death events. They can tell you about their experiences as well. Have you talked with Integrative Medical physicians? They are interested in hearing about natural ways to help people in coma. Is there a facility where you can volunteer to read to a coma patient? If you live in the US, you can contact Hospice to volunteer. That can provide you with some rich experience. Lastly, I encourage you to talk with a local writer who can help you write your story to get the attention of a publisher. Or, join a writing group at your local library. Joining a writing group helps you stay accountable for reaching your writing goals.

hi cheryl! i have a sister today in hospital and she's comatose. she gave birth at dawn today and had ceasarian. doctor's found out that she never went on pre-natal til 8months! she had diabetes and high blood. Please help!

Hi Cheryl, Could you please tell me your story? My brother has been in a coma since Sunday. He is only 23 years old. He had a traumatic injury but I am just believing that God will wake him up. You say that you remember what woke you up. Could you please share? Thank you. My family and I are in need of a miracle.

Hi cheryl can u please email me a family friend of ours was in an accident n would like too talk too someone about it can u email me or look me up on facebook?

WOW... Please fill me in with everything my sisters baby jus had open heart surgery, n is now in a coma n not doin well?? How long will this take?

Hi cheryl I would love to here your story .A friends son has been in a coma for 2 months after a TBI

hi! i have a husband suffering coma for almost one year and two months from now in the hospital,the doctor said my husband finding is hypoxic encepalopathy and its very hard for him to recover.please tell me how he will awake again ,as you said you know how to woke again.thank you very much.

Hi Jenalyn, Keep talking to your husband. Keep saying things he likes to hear. Talk about the future and how he'll have a wonderful future life with you. Suggest to him that Angels are nudging him awake. Play songs he likes to hear. Talk about things HE'S interested in. What are his hobbies? Talk about those. Entertain him with happy memories of when you first met. Suggest that his brain is like a perpetual strawberry plant. Strawberries bear fruit for a season, then the berries get eaten by birds and people. Eventually all that's left are the stems of the strawberries. Then, the weather changes, which is part of the life cycle of the strawberry. Eventually the strawberry hibernates and goes to sleep but it does awaken again after the winter. Use this metaphor and give your husband some ideas upon which to focus. This can help be guidance for him to awaken. Trust and have faith in God. Ask your husband to do that, too. Good luck. I am remembering you and your husband in my prayers. Comatalker

To those who have found this discussion forum, please remember that hearing is the last sense to go. Your loved one feels comforted and supported when you say encouraging things. Talk about memories that are respectful, encouraging and fun. Say things that result in the comatose person feeling hopeful. After all, complaining does nothing to improve the comatose person's outlook. Stay focused on saying something the comatose person needs to hear. Generally, after the research I've done with my clients, the person in coma is in a hypnotic mind state. Consider contacting a hypnotist in your area for self-hypnosis stress reduction. When I worked with my first coma client, an eight-year-old-boy who had drowned and was resuscitated about 20 minutes later, within 48 hours he consciously responded in a more relaxed way to a hypnosis script I recorded for him. His PCG (primary caregiver) was his grandmother. I asked her to get an auto-reverse tape player. This is one that plays the message that's on both tape sides. I wrote his first hypnosis script. On it, I told him my name and that I was his friend here to help him remember how to relax. I told him he was safe and in a bed surrounded by people who cared about him. I reminded him that he had many skills and power to achieve simple goals. I suggested that he could relax and breathe through his nose with his mouth closed and swallow in a relaxed way. I suggested that he could relax everything inside of him. That would make things calmer and would help him feel happy. Then, I recommended that he and I have a signal so he could tell me when he was ready to learn something else. I suggested the signal be a smile. Then, we let the tape play continuously. It was really quite a miracle that within 48 hours of first hearing the message, at each point when I told him to smile, he smiled. And, he was no longer demonstrating intermittent and unpredictable bouts of crying. Additionally, he had closed his mouth, was breathing through his nose again and swallowing like usual. His PCG and I felt very pleased at his progress. You can do this same thing for your loved ones. Have faith in being able to improve the situation for them. Focus on improving the quality of life for your comatose loved one who DOES (most likely) hear you. Comatalker

Hi

1of my family is in coma,please email me and let me know more information,is there any food can be useful for brain for gastrostomy?Thank you!

Hi, I can offer you no medical or nutritional information. Sorry. I can only offer stress reduction information of a general nature. If your family member now has a tube into the stomach, and you are looking for nutritional support, I encourage you to ask a nutritionist or dietician. I also encourage you to learn about essential fatty acids. The human body MUST have essential fatty acids (EFAs) so the cells can communicate. Common foods with EFAs are flax seed oil, pumpkin seed oil, sunflower seed oil and some other oils. I encourage you to talk with the doctor about adding them in appropriate amounts to help your loved one. The doctor will know if they interfere with the absorption properties of any medications. So, do not self-medicate. Let the medical, nutritional or dietetic staff do that. That way things will be safer for your loved one. EFAs are something that come from foods. We do not naturally make them. As far as stress reduction, talk calmly with your loved one. Talk of encouraging things and let him or her know you are supporting him or her. I will remember you in my prayers. Comatalker

Since you are a guest of the forum, you have no email listed to my knowledge. Comtalker

Hello i have my brother he was in Coma since last easter this april 2012. He cried, bite the hose in his mouth, move his eyes a little bit, move his feet a little bit and he moves his arms when the doctors trying to pinch his breasts...I would like to asked if these shows that my brother will wake up as soon as possible? He was now in the hospital and the doctor says he have improvements and hes now fine...And were just waiting for him to awake...I just would like to know if theres a possibility that my brother will wake up sooner? I am just very sad thinking of him in his situation and hoping he could wake up in few days or weeks from now...Im praying for it so hard and i hope you can gave any advices or informations...He is still now recovering from his brain damage but the doctor say he was ok and was waiting for him to awake...Im just worried when can it be possibly my brother will awake again? because if my sister was talking to him to stop biting his mouths hose...he stops too.

My advice is to keep her alive; don't let the doctor pull the plug. That is what we have done with my Grandmother, many times [even though the doctors never thought it possible she would keep fighting and keep living]. If it is at all possible keep her alive and continue to pray for her life.

In any event, I am wishing for you and your whole family healing, hope, and the abundence of life.

did you hear anyone talking to you? can you remember that at all? my grandma is in a coma because of a dentists mistake

Hello, I am a film student writing a script about a coma patient, and I was wondering if I could ask you a few questions.