In their quest to find out the true reason why couples fight, researchers stumbled upon some startling insights.
Research into this area revealed that most fights were about investment in the relationship, sharing and power or control. Power and control, especially while making crucial decisions, was found to be the overriding cause of conflict in relationships.
Also the willingness to admit faults, show concern and respect for the other and an attitude of compromise were seen as key traits for successful relationships.
"It's common for partners to be sensitive to how to share power and control when making decisions in their relationship," said researcher Keith Sanford, Ph.D., an associate professor of psychology and neuroscience at Baylor University.
The other aspect which creates problems in relationships was the extent of investment in the relationship like sharing intimate thoughts, dividing responsibilities and chores. Most of the concern areas hovered around neglect or when a partner's status was threatened by a critical or demanding partner.
Couples wished for better communication, more investment in the relationship, sharing of responsibilities, openness, not being critical or demanding and an apology at the right time. All this helped improve the quality of the relationship between couples and strengthened their bond.