Teenagers can be angry people
sometimes. Yelling at friends, slamming doors, shouting out curses and breaking
rules are the most common samples of behavior we see in teens today. Most of
the families that have a teenage son or a daughter often have clashes and
fights in the house. For the teenagers, their nagging mothers and their
teachers in the high school become their real enemies. Their aggressiveness and
their attitude leave their parents and teachers depressed and confused. A new
Harvard study says that nearly two-thirds of the U.S teens have reported that
they were involved in aggressive acts like damaging property and stealing from
departmental stores. Researchers point out that such teens suffer from a
disorder called Intermittent Explosive Disorder. This disorder is observed in
teens with the onset of puberty and teens get angry at a slightest provocation.
Intermittent Explosive Disorder
(IED) is a controversial mental illness that has not been much explored yet. It
is a disorder where the teens feel an uncontrollable rage in them. However,
this mental disorder is seen only in one teen out of twelve and mainly in
teenagers at the age of 13. Studies show that it could be a serious epidemic
problem with raging behavior catching on from one teen to another and might
need treatment including mood-altering drugs. Teens suffer from IED due to the
hormonal change in them during puberty. During the period of their physical and
psychological changes, they undergo stress trying to find out what they want to
do in their life and how their existence affects the world.
But not all teens are experiencing this rush of rage in
them. There are many teens that are best friends with their parents. They might
have fights but they are happy with their parents and family. Their behavior is
quite normal in school and in the general society. Those teens that have been
very friendly with their parents and have been taught good manners and behavior
in childhood have a normal life within their family and outside.
Sometimes teen anger is related with the generation gap.
The teen years are the time when a transition from a child to an adult takes
place. Sometimes teens are not able to realize the hard work and dedication
their parents and family have been putting to raise them. They argue when their
parents are making rules and get irritated when they are being questioned. They
think that they don't need to be monitored or advised and that they know what
isgood or bad for them. What they fail to understand is that all the rules and
concern their parents and elders have for them is to protect them from bitter
experiences in life. This causes conflict and misunderstanding among the child,parents
and teachers.
The behavior and the habits of parents are most important
in the growth and development of a child. Children observe their parents and
they want to become like them when they grow up. The negative attitude, harsh
behaviour and violence leave a deep impact on children against their parents.
They start assuming that their parents don't care about them. This starts the
chain of rude behavior and rage against their parents and then, people in
higher authorities. They cannot tolerate anyone pointing out their mistake or
telling them what to do and what not to do. The truth is, teenagers are not
fully mature to tackle thisever-changing world. They fail to understand that
parents and elders can provide them true love, care and the right guidance they
need during hard times. When they don't get support from their parents, they
seek for it with their friends or their crushes and follow the wrong path.
With the number of divorces and live-in relationships on
the rise, teenagers are afraid of commitment and are often confused as to whom
to trust and look for guidance. While adults in general should not shirk their
responsibilities, parents should never forget how strongly peer pressure can
affect the psychology of their teen child. They should try to form a healthy
bridge between their beliefs and their child from the beginning. It helps to
strengthen the bond of parent and child. It helps the child to grow into a
sensitive and understanding person. As parents, being a reliable friend to your
teen child is the best way to prevent anger in teenagers. They become furious
when their parents start scolding and questioning them instead of understanding
their views and point. A little understanding and flexibility with the ethics
is required to build a healthy relationship with the teens. In cases where
things are a little out of control, proper counselling and help should be taken
from psychologists.
The only good way to
protect your child from Teen Anger Disorder is to monitor your kid from the beginning.
Parents should not neglect or fail to observe the changes occurring in their
kids. They should make them understand that their child is not alone and they
are always ready for support and help. A little love, care and understanding can
make the child grow up into a sensible, honest and humble person and not be
haunted by teen anger disorder.
Source-Medindia