Pink and red hearts dot the
decorations for the day and one cannot miss the cheer in the air, palpable in
both the young and the old as they blend in the colour of the environment, with
hearts beating in unison and resonating with love.
They say life without love is
meaningless and who would know this better than a Valentine? Love is and will
always be a universal, binding, powerful and an all encompassing emotion,
finding relevance on Valentine's Day with the catchword 'Be my Valentine and
let's weave the magic of love together'.
Science of Love
A heady cocktail of chemicals
lure the brain into falling in love. Psychologists say that it takes anywhere
between 90 seconds and 4 minutes for that life-altering decision of choosing a
mate. Research into expressions of love has revealed that attraction or love is
conveyed 55% through body language, 38% through tone and pace of voice, and
only 7% through speech.
Helen Fisher of Rutgers
University was so intrigued that she did some detailed research in the area.
According to her, love goes
through three stages, motivated by the presence of different chemicals and
hormones. The three famous stages of love are lust, attraction and attachment.
Sex hormones, testosterone and
oestrogen - in both men and women come into play during the first stage - lust.
The second stage and the most
beautiful one is attraction.
two people are so much in love with each other, neurotransmitters in the brain
-adrenaline, serotonin and dopamine
kick in to play their part. Blame adrenaline for the heart racing or the dry
feeling in the mouth on meeting a loved one! Couples in love also have high
levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine, which gives them an instant high, akin
to the effect of taking a drug like cocaine. This brain chemical stimulates
desire and reward. It is serotonin at play when you get compulsive thoughts of
is the next obvious stage of love and the hormone 'oxytocin
' has a huge role to play in
promoting trust, belongingness and setting the foundation of lifetime bonds.
'If you love somebody, then show
it', seems to be the order of the day. It is not unusual to see open
demonstrations of love, exchange of gifts, rendezvous at special valentine
parties and dancing to mellifluous romantic numbers to set the feeling of love
rolling. From the teens to the umpteen, Valentine's Day lights up lives and
hearts in a universal expression of love.
E-love: Love Apps
"We love our Valentine but we
also love our gadgets and just cannot seem to do without our iPad, smartphones
and laptops" - In keeping with the times, organisations have come out with
smart and intelligent applications to suit the mood. For instance, 'Valentine Day
Quizle', 'Be Mine', ' Helpful Romantic', 'Love Poems' and few more love apps
for smartphones have been kicked in to help the e-generation express love the
way they know it best - with electronic media.
On the eve of Valentine's Day, Facebook
status messages are feverishly updated as teens and millennial peer into their
gadgets with a glazed look rather than dreamily look into their Valentine's
Welcome to the world of social
media networking, where love speaks through 'Qwerty' keypads with beautiful electronic
red hearts beating next to exquisitely worded messages of love. Life is an open
book and Facebook ensures it. With a generation fixated about telling the world
the details, one just needs to go to events to check out where the love birds
are headed next!
Instant Love and Distant Relationships
Baby boomers and senior citizens
also experienced the overpowering emotion of love but had different ways to
express it. Love meant nurture, belongingness, trust and attachment. It meant a
relationship to stand the test of time and display strength in the deepest of
crisis. Today, love happens in quite a different manner.
In the age of instant noodles,
instant curries, instant messenger and instant recharge, can instant love be
far behind? Love happens with just a click. Falling in love and out of it is
quick for the present generation. Relationships need time and Gen Y does not
have enough of it. 'I got to run' seems the motto of the millennial and love is
certainly left far behind!
Blues Amid all the Red -'Nirbhaya'
Memories of the fate that struck
Nirbhaya is a haunting reminder of the erosion of love.
The budding 23-year-old aspiring
student was snuffed out on December 16th
2012 due to the beastly
acts of a gang of psychotic men. Any celebration of love is a parody in the
face of this unforgettable incident, which caused the brutal death of a
promising student. How can we celebrate love, if the basic love for fellow
beings is dying?
Love also means security and
protection and on Valentine's Day, it is time to ask ourselves this basic
question - do we love enough to protect and safeguard our fellow human beings?
'Nirbhaya' signifies a world that is falling out of love.
Hug your loved ones and revel in the warmth of love.
Love indeed makes the world go round and lets us remember To Love and Let love,
this Valentine's Day!