Love is 'blind' but not binding; it can occur anywhere, at any time, to anyone. Conveying love
is a different ball game all together and often results in a frantic foraging for words. This is perhaps because we fail to acknowledge our ability to convey our thoughts through non-verbal cues.
What then are these gesticulations that invite, courtship, affection and intimacy?
The mating dance
involving ritualistic maneuvers is common among animals
- from the lowly spider to giant mammoths. If that is the case, can man be far behind?
It is interesting to learn that in the presence of a potential mate our bodies indulge in an 'involuntary pantomime'
- a phenomenon as old as the human race. It is this 'gestural dance' that abetted man in his quest for a suitable mate, to bring forth and to multiply.
There are numerous gestures
that transmit the message, 'I like u' to another. Synchronizing
one's behavior with those of another, helps bonding to bud and to blossom. Feminine hips
will often have an accentuated roll while walking past a potential mate. If a woman tilts her head
or twirls her hair
around her fingers, she is subtly displaying her attraction. A person who fondly gazes
into another's eyes for a prolonged period conveys care, sincerity and trustworthiness. Taking up an unbridled and open posture
relates vulnerability and trust.
Stoking the 'fire' with Fear
Two persons experiencing a rush of adrenalin together
may provide the perfect target for cupid's arrows. According to a study carried out by psychologits Arthur Aron and Don Dutton in the 1970s,men who met a woman atop a high, rickety bridge
experienced a sexier and a more romantic encounter than when they had met her on a low, stable bridge. A roller-coaster
ride too can set off the fireworks as some persons experienced a 'high' in intimacy levels after a roller- coaster ride together. Similarly, couples felt more 'warmed up' after watching a suspense-filled movie
than after watching a calm one.
What, then, is the igniting factor? Although there seems to be a correlation between physiological arousals
, such as anxiety, and physical attraction
, the answer continues to remain under a cloud.
'If music be the food for love, play on'
, suggested The Bard.
Psychologists at the North Adams State College, Massachusetts, have affirmed this statement when they discovered that women who were browsing through the photos of men found them to be a lot more attractive while listening to soft-rock music
, compared to other kinds of music, or no music at all.
Love and Laughter
When strangers share funny moments, their laughter
is bound to draw them closer
. This theory was corroborated by a study carried out by US psychologists Arthur Aron and Barbara Fraley. They discovered that when total strangers were made to indulge in playful pastimes that induced laughter, such as learning dancing steps, love stepped in unwittingly.
'Visual communication' is an emotionally and sexually charged
act. The eyes of those seeking intimacy will follow a 'triangular' pattern - eye to eye, then the mouth, chin, and further down to the rest of the body and then back again to look at the eyes. Psychologists have shown that when strangers locked eyes
, they developed feelings of intimacy. Gazing into another's eyes is reported to ignite those areas of the brain
associated with rewards
Love vs. Euphoria
Typically charecteristic of the modern times, efforts are on to discover a short route to love.
A nasal spray comprising of the hormone Oxytocin
has the potential to promote trust
, often considered the ' basic building block' of any relationship. On the other hand, the hormone Vasopressin
such as amphetamine or cocaine too can whip up a 'falling in love' euphoria by raising the level of the neurotransmitter, dopamine
. Phenyl Ethyl Amine (PEA) christened the 'love molecule'
is capable of creating feelings commonly linked to love, such as excitement and apprehension
. PEA is abundant in chocolates.
Elevated levels of Dopamine and PEA may be accomplished through exercising
too! So get those muscles grinding if relationship building is not your cup of tea!
Building relationships is quintessential to human existence; resorting to artificial means, such as use of stimulants, to create euphoria is the handy work of sick and lazy minds. A person's body language often tells more than what is orally conveyed. Comprehending non- verbal communications promotes the ability to understand others while also attempting to analyze the messages that we impart to others. If adopted well, these gestures may satiate the verbally- shy and the emotionally- challenged, and assuage the feelings of many a love-lorn!