Pretending to listen might sound disrespectful. But doing so could actually help one learn better, it is theorized.
Suzanne Rice, professor of educational leadership and policy studies, recently published "Listening: A Virtue Account" and "On Pretending to Listen" in Teachers College Record, along with co-author Nicholas C. Burbules of the University of Illinois.
AdvertisementIn a conversation, or many classroom or educational exchanges, it is in fact necessary to pretend to listen in order to think of what one will say next, they write.
Listening and not listening, thus, are not opposites: They are phases in an ongoing process of listening in which the very fact that we are sometimes not listening can actually help us to listen better, the duo explain.
"We expect students at all levels to do a tremendous amount of learning from listening," Rice said. "Yet listening is incredibly underrepresented in research."
Teachers, like many parents, often find themselves in a room of very vocal children. In such cases it's almost impossible to pay attention to all voices simultaneously. Skilled educators, however, can divide their attention or "pretend to listen" and still be effective.
"A lot of people think good listening is this total engrossment. We argue that good listeners don't necessarily do that all the time," Rice said. "Sometimes for practical purposes it's OK to only appear to be completely listening in the classroom. We need to be present enough that our attention can be grabbed by a student if need be, but we also need to be aware of the many student voices overall."
The key is being able to discern when to listen, with how much depth and intensity, and perhaps most importantly, when not to listen.
Listening can be profoundly educative," say Rice and Burbules . "It is one of the principal ways in which we learn about the world and its people, develop a sense of self, form relations with others, and expand our moral and intellectual capacities."
Listening, Rice maintains, is not simply a technical skill, and much of it is not even done with the ears. Being open and receptive to another's speech, or making gestures such as a nod, can all be part of it.
"There isn't a recipe for good listening," Rice said. "It has many, many forms, and one of those forms isn't even listening. It's pretending to listen."
A person can be pretending to listen while performing other tasks, physically portraying to the speaker that he or she is listening, focusing on other things or stimuli or when misunderstanding — when people think they understand someone when in fact they do not.
"No one can listen all the time, to everything that is said, nor should one want to. In the very act of listening, we may be consciously portraying ourselves as listening (eye contact, nodding our heads, etc), because showing one's self to be listening is both a stimulus to the other's speaking and a general act of concern or respect," Rice and Burbules wrote. "Such portrayals can be a good thing, we will argue, even when one is not, in fact, listening — they are not simply 'faking it' in a derogatory sense."
Whether in the classroom or out, listening is indeed one of the primary methods through which people learn. Given its prominence it carries strong moral implications. The best listeners, Rice says, are those who are best at determining when to devote the most attention and when pretending to listen is all right, or even beneficial.
"If we're honest with ourselves, how many times do we find ourselves pretending to listen?" Rice asked. "Sometimes that's a bad thing. Sometimes it's appropriate."
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