SAN DIEGO, Sept. 10 Conflict is an issue that childrenoften face on a regular basis, yet they tend to have little preparation on howto communicate effectively to handle a confrontation or argument with theirsiblings, friends, or school bullies. These rivalries can be harmful tochildren, whether mentally or physically, because they often lead to lowself-esteem, violent behavior, and anger management issues.
It is important to establish and maintain a home environment whereconflict is handled in a healthy manner, so children learn to use effectivecommunication tools and develop self-control. To help children deal withfrustrations, the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists(CAMFT) offers the following recommendations:
Helping children with conflict resolution can be difficult. Consultingwith a Marriage and Family Therapist can help in developing strategies andalternative ways to assist with challenging situations. Marriage and FamilyTherapists are mental health professionals who are trained to help individualscommunicate within their families, relieve stress, and create a better familydynamic. To learn more about family therapy or to locate a therapist in yourarea, visit California's online mental health resource,http://www.TherapistFinder.com.
The California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, with 27chapters throughout the state, is an independent professional organization,representing the interests of licensed Marriage and Family Therapists. CAMFTprovides http://www.TherapistFinder.com as a resource to the public lookingfor Marriage and Family Therapists located in California. For more informationabout CAMFT, please call (858) 292-2638 or visit http://www.camft.org.-- Help children express themselves. Encourage them to express their feelings with words instead of actions. -- Teach children to share. Prioritize the importance of giving to others. This will promote collaboration. -- Practice what you preach. Be careful about how you resolve your own conflicts with children or in the presence of children. -- Refrain from resolving problems for children, when possible. This will prepare them to independently develop effective dispute resolution solutions. -- Show children how to apologize. The art of apologizing is an important concept in mitigating conflict.
SOURCE California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists